Narcissism isn’t always out loud. Sometimes, it’s hidden within quirky behaviors you can’t help but notice, yet wouldn’t notice…if they weren’t so noticeable. That’s the subtle tactic of narcissism; being a narcissist isn’t an end game. With treatment and therapy, it is possible to discover the root of narcissism and to build healthy habits to counteract harmful behaviors.
Five of the more overlooked signs of narcissism include:
Small Offenses Make You Really Upset
When someone doesn’t answer you right away, do what you wanted them to do, meet your needs, says something inconsiderate, or does any other little thing to offend you, you get upset. You don’t just get upset, you get really upset. Angry, resentful and betrayed, a narcissist will either react in a puff of ego and superiority or totally break down into a vulnerable inferiority state.
You’re Not Entitled! It’s Just the Way It Should Be
Obviously, when you ask for something, it should just be done. Why wouldn’t it be? You asked for it! If it can’t get done right away, then you expect whomever you’ve asked to find another way to get it done. It isn’t that you’re entitled and expect everything for nothing. You’re actually convinced it’s up to other people to serve your happiness to you on a silver platter. You can’t accept anything less because you don’t know how to make yourself happy.
Being Wrong Doesn’t Work for You
Agree to disagree? Not so much. When it comes to arguments, you have to win. Narcissists who find themselves in leadership positions often aren’t able to admit when they have made a mistake or when someone else is doing better than they are. You want to be the best and be right all the time. Sadly, this stems from a deeply rooted insecurity that you aren’t good enough at all.
The Sun Is Your Only Competition
That is, for being the center of the universe. One of the ways you receive that desperately needed validation is through making yourself the center of attention as often as possible, either in large and loud ways or subtle and silent ways. If someone else should get more attention than you for something, it won’t last long.
You’re Super Selfless
Giving back is big for you because you give back big. Donations? Happy to post about it on Facebook. Volunteering time? Taking a selfie. In a conversation about community service? Watch out, here comes your list. You’re so selfless that you are lucky you have anything left to give. Thankfully, you have a lot.